Comments on: Do You Think You’re Good Enough? Do Others Agree?

By: Barb Hartsook

Barb Hartsook — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:30:27 +0000

Wow — great insight Nita! You’re right… I had to go back and look where the word enough was used, and yep. That’s exactly what it sounds like. Nothingness. No substance whatever. Thanks!

By: Barb Hartsook

Barb Hartsook — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:32:51 +0000

…in spite of. That’s what makes you who you are, Anita. I admire — always have — those who get up off their circumstances and live in spite of…

And you know I admire you.

By: Sliloh

Sliloh — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 21:03:16 +0000

Hey, those negative comments are my mantra. I’m no dummy, I learned my lessons well. And even though I limit time with certain people because of it, I still get those little jabs when I see them. But that feeling of not being good enough persists even though around them I hide it under a tough exterior.
But, I have always gone my own way in spite of it

Anita

By: Nita

Nita — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:26:46 +0000

Oooooh, reading this brings so much up from my subconscious……no, Barb and Carol, you indeed are not alone! I don’t believe people intend to put doubt into our minds….and actually, they can’t do it unless we allow them to do it. Of course, the ability to disallow it is an on-going study of HOW to disallow it! I love how you explained this, Barb….”they have decided who you are by their standards”……unfortunately part of the “human condition” for most. Do you know what word stood out on this thread the most for me? The word “enough”……it kinda goes along with other words like “should” or “should have”, doesn’t it?

By: Barb Hartsook

Barb Hartsook — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:48:29 +0000

Thanks Adele. I think there’s a third reason people say these things… they simply speak before thinking it through. What you’re about to do has never occurred to them, or they have decided — maybe unconsciously — who you are by their standards. And for you to change and grow is just outside their realm of expectation for you.

In this case, my friend simply says whatever comes to her to say. She has even apologized before, and I love her as a person. So I’m learning to laugh.. a good lesson for me too. (And I have to ask myself if I’m banking on my expectations of her! Haha!)

Your moving day is closing in — praying for a smooth transition after much packing and planning.

By: Adele

Adele — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 14:24:00 +0000

Hi Barb – this is my last week of packing for my move on the 15th – just in time to almost get to the next blogging studio. I’m indulging by taking a look here and must respond to your comment about the negative remarks your “friend” made about your dreams. I have experienced that every time I make a decision to do something new in my life, no matter what it is, “friends’ come out of the woodwork to say, “What do you want to do THAT for?” All that means is that they are either threatened by whatever, or have zero imagination. Live your dreams. They are the best!

By: Barb Hartsook

Barb Hartsook — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 13:29:38 +0000

I have rescued your comments sent into the Spam Bin, Sonya — and thanks a bunch for continuing to persist. Looks like it’s straightened out now.

Your remark above — handful of thought gems… I will tuck away and when I am ready, they will come out to help — goes right into my own treasure box. Thank you!

By: Swati

Swati — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:22:01 +0000

I am having some trouble with WordPress and TypePad – my comments go straight to their spam bin, so changing the email and URL and re-trying to thank you for these handful of thought gems in my hands; I will tuck these away and when I am ready, they will come out to help.

By: Swati

Swati — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:19:19 +0000

Barb, thanks. I am left with so many thoughts in my cupped hands, to polish and examine and exclaim over…

By: Barb Hartsook

Barb Hartsook — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 18:17:58 +0000

…as it has so many of us, Carol. My sisters and I have often discussed how we were taught to be humble, and while that’s a good thing, it can go too far. Humility does not embody self-deprecation. It’s my passion to show my own girls and their kids by my example how to pursue their own stuff while believing in and lifting others in the process.

You are not alone…